April: A Conversation with self

April: A Conversation with self

What comes to mind when you reflect on the last 30 days?

 

The pain of reality can hurt, I will be the first to admit there are times where I beat myself up because I’m not where I want to be.

Hands up if your worst critic is yourself?

Mine can be loud as ****, it’s not often it wins in the battle but this month I think it won… But it was only for a day.

I remember waking up and the internal voice was “Oh boy, what’s the point, we ain’t got the energy today, You’ve tried but we ain’t getting results

There’s more in you

Often I feel I could be doing more, and I do limit myself. I have sabotaged potential opportunities based on the thoughts in my mind.

Now, these thoughts have a name they are called “FEAR” (False Evidence Appearing Real).

Repair the ship

So what do you do when you are out in the sea and have spent the day just drifting, if you are similar to me you’ll end up educating yourself, evaluating where you are and thinking about what are the next steps.

Sometimes you need to shut up shop and focus on the one thing!

 

What have you achieved?

Give me the microphone let me spray them

 

I was fortunate enough to be invited along to a panel discussion on personal development at Obsidian Network Flagship event “Invest in You”

It was an amazing experience, to be in a room filled with young black males and sharing my own personal journey and shining the light on the importance of investing in yourself first.

 

 

 

 

afrotechfest

In April I also attended Afro Tech Fest, a festival which brought together black people of African and Caribbean heritage who are in tech or interested in tech.

 

A refreshing experience to hear other people in technology speak and share their own personal stories within the industry.

I even took the opportunity to showcase myself and Tag Me In Podcast again putting myself into situations that scare me, because that is the only way I will challenge and change.

 

Building Blocks

I’ve been educating myself on properties, an area that I have been aware of but the interest has been sporadic but this time I want to take action.

Samuel Leeds has been my main source of information, from his Youtube Channel to reading his books.

Education is very similar to the build of an actual building, you have to start with the basic aka the foundations, and then add new material like the brick blocks.

 

 

What have you struggled with?

 

Balancing this Dating world

Entering the dating world has had me feeling like a wobbly knee toddler, from having a feeling of we got this to whoops I don’t think I quite have this thing.

The biggest adjustment is letting go especially since it’s been 2 years of doing me, whilst dating you are required to make things work, which requires compromises like time, energy or putting the effort in to understand where a person is coming from.

A very different place to when it is Me, Myself and I

 

 

What are you working on right now?

Knowledge is power

Financial Education has been a big topic on my mind, a lot of events attended or books read have been centred around finances.

ameyfinance

The knowledge I thought I possessed was only touching the surface out there, which is necessary on my quest of building a legacy for my family.

 

Start with your why?

Another area I have been “trying”, and the focus word should be “try” is my personal brand.

But what is the personal brand, the question to this is asking where do you see your value, what is it you offer?

A deep question that will take you on a journey, a book worth mentioning is Start With Your Why by Simon Sinek.

 

 

How do you feel physically and mentally?

 

Triggered?

Three words that pained me on the day I wasn’t 100% was:-

  • Love
  • Value
  • Team

I could watch a youtube video and if I saw a team, I would be triggered! If I saw someone showing value… Triggered

What did these people have that I haven’t yet mastered – “The One Thing“. I’ve heard it multiple times the importance of focusing on One Thing but what do you when you don’t know what it could be.

Try Everything, Until one fits.

Physically I have started to see bodily change, which comes from eating better but being consistent with my home workout. You can actually find me out in my garden since we have sunnier days doing compound workouts.

 

 

What are your future goals?

 

Do better! Make passive
Diversify stocks
Research property and finalise MIP
Build personal branding
Do a martial arts
To experience Sensory Tank
Follow thought leaders
Start kick Boxing with Brother
Personal Brand is a must
Daily Quote of the day
Get Headshot done
POC meet
Complete Ep100 including social media, episode and event
Contact top followers and listeners for feedback
I have built a small team for TMI – graphics, social media, editing, video, photography
start insta life


Anything else you feel is important.

  • “Is it worth viewing if I was to put an offer below market value” – Determining if it is worth actually going to a viewing if they are fixed on the guide price.
  • I’m actively avoiding saying “One Day” because it doesn’t even exist in the calendar – “Let’s catch up one day” sometime may never happen unless you state a date/day.
  • This tweet alone made me evaluate my connections
April: Be the captain of your own ship

April: Be the captain of your ship

What comes to mind when you reflect on the last 30 days?

Throughout the past 30 days, there have been moments where “Be the captain of my own ship” has echoed in my head.

We are often faced with moments where we have to take control of our own vessels and take it in the direction we need to take it in.

But balance is necessary…

I have always prided myself on my independence, nonetheless, allowing your boat to sail off every now and again can unravel some extraordinary gems and discoveries.

The two letters NO is one of the hardest things to say in life. For me personally, I’m afraid to say NO due to fear of missing out on an amazing opportunity.

There is always a challenge when you have to reign in your vessel and steer it into a different direction from everyone else, likened to a boat you will have to overcome difficult waves and go on a trail less travelled because it is your adventure and your life to create those experiences.

The beautiful thing about leading your own ship is it has the potential to bring other people on-board, however, this does come with some responsibilities.
When people come on board with your plans they look up to you for direction, you will have to lead the pack and one thing I avoided to embrace as a characteristic is “Leadership”.

Notice how leadership hasn’t been listed on my characteristic board

characteristic board

The word “Leadership” has been mentioned to me a few times previously, even written down as part of a growth hack assessment and mentioned multiple times on this trip.
Perhaps because it is coming from people that I have no connections with it has hit me harder, and perhaps its time to harness the gift and use this strength.

What have you achieved?

In all honesty this has got to be my most unproductive month of 2018; literally, F*** all has been achieved on my to-do list for April.

To continue learning Forex using babypips
Review Trade system podcast
Review Buying and Selling
Promote and push BRG and Nw
Stretch 3 times a week
Physical exercise 2 days a week
Inform doctors of vaccinations
Meditate daily and visualise
Message friends weekly
Message/Speak to the family once a week
Complete a book a month
Listen to Blinkist once a week
Start to learn a new language – Daily Duolingo
Review Guest Bloggers
Review Podcast Guests
Prep Podcast Episodes

When you pair this with traveling and the experiences I have had it is understandable, we live in a world with so much beauty.
Sight is a gift and my two eyes have been blessed with some amazing and breath-taking places/landmarks.
Previously I trained myself to be in the present moment and commit the image to my brain, whilst other people were snapping their pictures I would just blink my eyes. Literally, Blink!

But, there’s only so much one can commit to the brain and just like that, I made a switch and was taking photos.

Here is one of my favourite photo from April taken using the Camera App – VSCO

krabi april sunset

 

What I find fascinating about this is how quick my views can change along with how self-talk can sometimes hold you back from change.

Battle with Social Media
This month saw me overcoming an internal battle which was using social media, for 5 years I was against social media due to the way I used it in the past. I was using it as a way to show people ‘Hey, Look at me, this is what I am doing‘ and seeking some type of validation

Fortunately enough I caught myself in the act and stopped using Instagram, but social media has become a norm in today’s society.
Despite this, my views were so strong I even wrote a lengthy blog article on the use of it and link to narcissist behaviour.

Technology advances have changed the way we interact, communicate and see each other, and if you don’t evolve you will be extinct.
So if I chose to be an outsider and not adapt with time I will be an outliner which is absolutely fine as well, however, I’m aware of the influence I could potentially have on people.
I understand how there is a need to break the “status quo“, how one person can enable others to see and do things they never thought was possible, and that’s the power of social media knowing which impact you can have on others.

 

What have you struggled with?

A few of my friends have asked me this very question – “Are you missing anything from home?”, my answer is “My Own Space”.

A conflictual thing about me is I can be an Extrovert along as an Introvert, and there are times were the introvert within me screams to be alone and that is difficult whilst travelling.

I have always loved my own space; I can easily spend days and weeks alone in my own space. I miss the days of being stuck in my room along with my whiteboard plotting my next moves, implementing changes on my website, brainstorming ideas or just watching movies.

What are you working on right now?

Trying to restore some balance in my life, a small amount of work has been completed, and my goal list has been deferred to the next month.

To avoid it happening again I have been trying to create a space for myself to be productive and do things, meaning waking up slightly earlier than everyone else just to do an 1/2 hours of work.

What are your future goals?

To continue learning Forex using babypips.com
Complete website for The BME Collective
Review Trade system podcast
Review Buying and Selling
Promote and push Best Revision Guide and Notesworthy websites
Stretch 3 times a week
Physical exercise 2 days a week
Inform doctors of vaccinations
Meditate daily and visualise
Complete a book a month – Bricking It
Listen to Blinkist once a week
Start to learn a new language – Daily Duolingo
Review Guest Bloggers for Tag Me In Podcast
Review Podcast Guests for Tag Me In Podcast
Prep Podcast Episodes for Tag Me In Podcast

How do you feel physically and mentally?

I miss the gym and the physicality of lifting weights; it’s interesting because I never thought I would miss the gym so much. Gym over time has become an outlet, a way to get those happy chemical pumping, a space I can process the day and what needs to be achieved with a sprinkle of creative thoughts.

With this awareness, I have tried to go the gym at least once a week, but even this commitment has become difficult because in the last 30 days of April I have been to the gym only twice.

Mentally I have been thinking about the future, taking a year out has been one of the big goals in my life and now it has been achieved there is a void.
What is the next challenge? what is the next goal? What’s another life goal? But I’m not rushing these thoughts and letting it naturally fall into place.

Anything else you feel is important.

  • How are you today? – Naturally, when I see someone I say “You alright/You good?” but because it is a common phrase a generic response is given.
    How are you today? Breaks out of that pattern and forces people to respond with something that is not a default response.
  • Mosquito bite? Press a hot spoon (e.g. the one you stirred your coffee with) onto the spot. The heat will destroy the protein that caused the reaction and the itching will stop.
  • The best trait of something can also be its worse trait – For example, a country with hot weather all year round can suffer from drought due to the lack of rain.